Chapter 12

Communications 3300 with Veksler at University of Connecticut

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Close Encounters: Communication in Relationships
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Communication Privacy Management Theory (Boundary Structures, Ownership, and Permeability)

-CPM THEORY: Helps explain how individuals cope with the need to maintain privacy boundaries (people set up boundary structures as a way to control the risks inherent in disclosing private information)

-Boundary Structures are based on:

:OWNERSHIP: When people feel they have ownership over information, they

believe they also have the right to control who has access to it

:PERMEABILITY: A strict set of rules governs who can access the information

we own

Principles Governing Rules for Boundary Structures

-INFLUENCE ON RULES FOR BOUNDARY MANAGEMENT: rules for communication boundary management are influenced by culture, personality, the relationship, sex/gender, and needs/motivation

-COOPERATION: Successful boundary management often requires cooperation between people

:Often involve others in their info. boundary management

:Develop penalties for group or dyad members who violate the boundary

structure

-BOUNDARY TURBULENCE: Occurs when these structures come under stress or threat

Types of Privacy Invasion

-SUBVERSIVE: Violate children's privacy without their prior knowledge or permission (eavesdropping, opening mail, going through personal things, etc.)

-DIRECT: Include more overt violations of privacy with no attempt by parents to hide their actions (giving unsolicited advice, asking personal questions, etc.)

-Subversive are seen as being worse

Responses to Privacy Violations

-Verbal Assertion: Involves communication with the person who violated one's personal privacy in a direct and cooperative manner (asking person to stop)

-Passive Aggression and Retaliation: Involve trying to retaliate against a person through behaviors such as making the person feel guilty and getting revenge

-Tempered Tolerance: Outwardly accepting the violation through responses such as grinning and bearing it

-Boundary Restructuration: Adjust public boundaries to prevent future privacy violation

Obsessive Relational Intrusion (ORI)

-Repeated invasion of one's privacy boundaries

-Occurs when someone uses intrusive tactics to try to get closer to someone else

-Used in situations involving unrequited love

Relational Goal Pursuit Theory

-People extend energy to develop/re-initiate relationships to the extent that they perceive a relationship is attainable/desirable

-At first, ORI behaviors are usually prosocial, indirect, and mildly annoying

-If ignored, pursuer may employ more invasive violations of privacy such as surveillance, harassment, and infiltration into the desired person's social network

-In some cases ORI behaviors become extreme and frightening with pursuers staking their victims and engaging in coercive behaviors

Reasons for Continued Pursuit

-CULTURAL SCRIPTS: portray people playing hard to get (suggest that if people try hard enough, they will eventually win the affection of the desired)

-Communication patterns related to the initiation, re-initiation, and rejection of relationships are ambiguous

-When people have trouble obtaining a goal, they often ruminate about it, sometimes obsessively

-The motivation for ORI behaviors can shift from relationship pursuit to the desire for revenge if the pursuer feels humiliated

How Desired Person Can Thwart ORI Behaviors

-PASSIVE: waiting for the pursuer to tire from you, lose interest, or give up

-AVOIDANT: not answering phone calls and staying away from the pursuer

-AGGRESSIVE: being mean or rude, threatening to harm the pursuer if he or she doesn't leave you alone

-INTEGRATIVE: communication disinterest directly, negotiating relationship rules and boundaries

-HELP SEEKING: Asking others for assistance in preventing ORI behaviors

Topic Avoidance: In Romantic Relationships, Cross-Sex Friendships, and Parent-Child Relationships

ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS:

-Most common in the middle of relationships (a lot of relational uncertainty)

-Not comfortable leaving the relationship but not comfortable telling everything about yourself

CROSS-SEX FRIENDSHIPS

-Most common when one person wants the relationship to go further and the other doesn't

PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS

-Most common during late adolescence

-When children are starting to develop sense of self --> learn what to disclose to parents and what to keep private

Commonly Avoided Topics

-State of Relationship/Relationship Issues

-Negative experiences/failures

-Romantic relationship experiences

-Sexual Experiences

-Friendships and family members

-Dangerous behavior

-Everyday activities

-Conflict issues

-Money

-Deep conversations

-Drinking/drugs

-Religion

Relationship-Based Motivations for Topic Avoidance

-Relationship Protection (fear of abandonment)

-Relationship Destruction/De-Escalation (terminate a relationship or prevent it from becoming more intimate)

Individual-Based Motivations for Topic Avoidance

-Identity Management: fear of embarrassment and criticism, as well as feelings of vulnerability

-Privacy Maintenance: need for privacy and authority

:Common in teenagers

Information-Based Motivations for Topic Avoidance

-Partner Unresponsiveness: suspect the other person may find the disclosure trivial or lack the requisite knowledge to respond

-Futility of Discussion: believe that talking about a particular topic would be futile or a "waste of their time"

Secrets

Intentional concealment of information

Types of Family Secrets

-WHOLE FAMILY SECRETS: Secrets the entire family keeps from everyone outside of the family (finances, alcohol abuse, jail time)

-INTRA FAMILY SECRETS: Secrets that are kept by some members in the family from other family members

-INDIVIDUAL: Secrets on individual keeps from other family members (may or may not be shared outside the family)

Most Common Secrets in Families, Most Common Secrets in Romantic Relationships

-FAMILIES: (1) finances, (2) substance abuse, (3) premarital pregnancies

-ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS: (1) dating and sexual history, (2) having an affair, (3) personality and opinion conflicts

About this deck

By: Kristina Spencer
Textbook:

Close Encounters: Communication in Relationships
Created: 2011-04-30
Size: 16 flashcards
Views: 25

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