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Making Relationships Work Forming Close Relationships Intimacy and love Friends, Family, and Romantic Partners Intimacy and Love Intimacy: Close Connection Intimate Relationship Love: An Ocean of Emotion Triangular Theory Triangular Theory Liking Infatuated love Empty love Romantic love Companionate love Fatuous love Consummate love Relationship Development Coming-Together and Coming-Apart Phases Relationship Development Coming-Together Phase Initiating: Taking the Plunge Experimenting: Auditioning for the Part Intensifying: Warming to the Relationship Integrating: Moving Beyond ?Just Friends? Bonding: Strings, Rings, and Other things Turning Point Coming-Apart Phase Differentiating: Disintegrating Begins Circumscribing: Don?t Ask, Don?t Tell Stagnating: Treading Water Avoiding: The End is Near Terminating: Stick a Fork in It Sustaining Relationships with Competent Communication Connecting bids Keeping Us Together Connecting Bids Definition: Connecting Bid Making Bids: Reaching Out to Others Responses: Turning This Way and That Turning-toward responses Turing-away responses Turning-against responses Consequences: The Glad, the Bad, the Sad rebid Emphasize Supportive Communication How to Talk to Others Supportive Communication Evaluation Verses Description Evaluations Self-justification Description ?First-person singular statements? Descriptions specific, not vague Eliminate editorial comments from descriptive statements Control Verses Problem Orientation Psychological reactance Supportive Communication Manipulation Verses Assertiveness Manipulative Communication Indifference Verses Empathy Empathy Superiority Verses Equality Certainty Verses Provisionalism Provisionalism Defuse defensiveness When Cooperative Climate Isn?t Enough Defuse Defensiveness Avoid Defensive Spirals: I Didn?t Do It, and Besides, They Deserved It Focus on the Problem, Not the Person: Keep Your Eye on the Prize Address relationship deterioration Beyond Sustaining Relationship Deterioration Resist Temptation Seek Opportunities Avoid Turing-Away, Turing-Against Responses Cross-Sex Friendships Sustaining with Complications Cross-Sex Friendships Four Types Mutual Romance Strictly Platonic Desires Romance Rejects Romance Technology and Competent Interpersonal Relationships Social Contact The Influence of Technology Social Contact Benefits of the Internet and Cell Phones: Expanding Social Networks Drawbacks of the Internet and Cell Phones: Negative Transactions Online romance Cyber Love Online Romance So what about online dating services? Conflict Hurling Electronic Flames Conflict Emoticons Flaming What can you do if using communication technologies increases hostile conflict? Intercultural Relationships and Communication Competence Intercultural Friendships Additional Challenges Intercultural Friendships Differences in values, perceptions, and communication styles Anxiety Overcoming stereotypes Intercultural romance Tougher Than Friendships Intercultural Romance Four strategies used in intercultural marriages: Submission Compromise Obliteration Consensus