Exam 2

StudyBlue printing of Exam 2 html, body, div, span, applet, object, iframe, h1, h2, h3, h4, h5, h6, p, blockquote, pre, a, abbr, acronym, address, big, cite, code, del, dfn, em, font, img, ins, kbd, q, s, samp, small, strike, strong, sub, sup, tt, var, b, u, i, center, fieldset, form, label, legend, table, caption, tbody, tfoot, thead, tr, th, td { margin: 0; padding: 0; border: 0; outline: 0; font-size: 100%; background: transparent; } body { line-height: 1; } blockquote, q { quotes: none; } blockquote:before, blockquote:after, q:before, q:after { content: ''; content: none; } /* remember to define focus styles! */ :focus { outline: 0; } /* remember to highlight inserts somehow! */ ins { text-decoration: none; } del { text-decoration: line-through; } /* tables still need 'cellspacing="0"' in the markup */ table { border-collapse: collapse; border-spacing: 0; } /* end RESET */ .header { min-width:800px; } .logo { padding:6px 20px 2px 20px; margin:0; font-size:25px; font-weight:bold; color:#808285; position:relative; border-bottom: 1px solid #c5c5c5; } .logo-blue { color:#70adc4; } .logo-desc { font-weight:normal; font-size:19px; color:#cccccc; margin-top:50px; position:absolute; display: none; } .back-button { position:absolute; top:20px; right:20px; font-size:13px; line-height:25px; color:rgb(0,175,225); font-weight:normal; } .back-button a { color:rgb(0,175,225); } .instructions { padding:0; margin:0; width:100%; position:relative; color:rgb(100,100,100); } .step-holder { border-left:1px solid #ededed; margin-left:20px; } .steps { padding:15px 0; float:left; width:24%; border-right:1px solid #ededed; text-align:center; } .steps-01 { } .steps-02 { } .steps-03 { } .steps-04 { } .label { padding:5px 10px; } .print-button { } .print-button a { background-color:rgb(0,175,225); color:white; line-height: 19px; padding:9px 8px 5px 30px; font-size:14px; text-decoration:none; background-image: url(images/printer.png); background-repeat: no-repeat; background-position: 7px 50%; -moz-border-radius: 5px; -webkit-border-radius: 5px; } .print-button a:hover { background-color:black; } .theNote .content { width: 8.0in !important; margin: 5px auto; padding:20px; background-color:white; } .theNote .header { border-bottom: 1px dashed #C8C8C8; font-size: 17px; padding: 0 0 10px; line-height: 19px; color: #00ADE1; min-width:500px; } .theNote .body { font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; padding: 10px 0; } .theNote{ padding:6px 0; clear:both; background-color: rgb(200,200,200); } .theNote h3{ color: rgb(100,100,100); } .theNote h1, .theNote h3{ background-color:white; padding:2px 20px; width:8.0in !important; margin: 0 auto; font-size: 15px; } .theNote h1{ padding-top: 10px; font-size: 15px; } .theNote h1:first-child{ font-size: 20px; } .theNote h3 { font-size: 14px; font-weight: normal; } #options { border: 3px double #ccc; padding: 5px 12px; margin: 10px 50px 10px 20px; float: left; } #info { border-top: 1px solid #ccc; padding-top: 5px; font-style: italic; } li { margin: 5px 10px 5px 25px; } ul li { list-style: disc; } ol li { list-style: decimal; } img { border: 0; } table { clear: both; width: 100%; border: 1px solid #c5c5c5; border-width: 1px 0; margin: 0; page-break-after: always; } table#page { page-break-after: auto; } td { text-align: center; font-size: 12px; border-bottom: 1px dashed #c5c5c5; height: 1.75in; width: 50%; padding-left: 15px; } .leftside { border-right: 1px solid #cccccc; padding: 0 15px 0 0; } .bottom td { border-bottom: none; } .clearfix { clear:both; line-height:1px; height:1px; } img { max-width:80%; max-height:150px; margin:20px; } @media print {.header { display: none; } .content .header{ display:inherit; } table { border: 1px dashed #bbb; border-width: 1px 0; } .theNote{ background-color:white; } } Test 2 FAS 331 3 Types of Communication: 1. Passive communication unwillingness to say what one thinks, feels, or wants frequently assoiciated with anxiety about others opinions creates distance rather than intaimacy 2. Aggressive communication aims to hurt or put down another person characterized by "you" statements reinforces that partner is to blame 3. Assertive communication involves the expression of thoughts feelings and desires "I" statements giving yourself the right to be who you are without infringing on your parnters rights to be who he/she is Double Bind: The verbal and nonverbal messages (interaction component) relay information that causes some question or conflict about the relationship between the speaker and the receiver (relational component) Nonverbal: important part of communication tells others something about the individual sending the message facial expressions eye contact gestures special behaviors, 80% nonverbal John Gottmans Work says tha thow you resolve differences is what is important how a couple fights is on of the most telling ways to diagnose the health of the marriage compatibility in conflict resolution style is what matters Goals of Listening 1. Persuasive- hardly listening 2. Directive- attempts to channel or direct the conversation, the listener attempts to control the direction of the conversation throught the use of questions 3. Attentive- allowing the speaker to tell the story without interrupting and encouraging rather than directing the teller, most effective 4 Skills that Improve your Listening Ability 1. Attend 2. Acknowledge 3. Invite more information 4. Summarize Styles of Marital Interaction 1. Validating couples- in disagreements, they still let their partners know they consider their opinions, and emotions to be valid- even if they don't agree losts of verbal cues mirroroing expressions validation persuasion compromise- each partnet voices opinionm then they compromise tend to be good friends value togetherness over individual pursuits 2. Volatile couples- fight on a grand scale and have an even grader time making up very open about feelings- never withdrawn types high levels of emotional engagement during discussions little interest in hearing each others points of veiw- lots of interrruptions skip understanding- move right into persuasion passion & drama ecpress more anger- but more laughter and affection than validators see themselves as equals- marriage should strengthen individuality 3. Avoidant couples- conflict minimizers- make light of differences rather than resolving them end frictions by "agreeing to disagree" jointly conclide that conflicts are not important enought to work through in a discussion solving a problem= ignoring it and letting time take its course value separateness Warning signs 1. Critivism 2. Contempt 3. Defensiveness 4. Stonewalling What men can do to have a better intimate relationship with a women provide more facial expressions and nonverbals talk less about themselves, interrupt less, and listen better show more emotion What women can do to have a better intimate ralationship with a man tell him what you want in a loving manner stay focused on the present dont nag a man into opening up expect a man to try to solve the problem understand that mens converstion dwell on activities BEST communication Blessing Edifying Sharing Touching Source of Conflict Resolution --The less tow people have in common, the more conflict they'll have in their relationship. The absence of conflict demonstates that either the relationship is not improtant enough to fight over or that both individuals are too insecure to risk disagreement Styles of Conflict Resolution competivitve use direct confrontation want to win without compromising collaborative highly assertive wnat to accomplish their goals have concern for others most time consuming compromise more direct than avoident less time consuming than collaborative relationship is between equal parts you each have to give a little avoidance avoiders pirsure neither their own concers nor the concers of the other person change the subject accommodating put aside personal concerns to satisfy the other given in, within reson minimizes losses, but reduces creative options, may produce resentment Lerner's Styles of Anger Management Pursurs-seek greater closeness Distancers-seek emotional space Underfunctioning-difficulty getting organized (too much flexibility) Overfunctioning-too organized, low in flexibility Blamer-short fuse and responces emotionally Gender Roles roles and responsibilities that a peron is expected to perform because they are male of female the gender role pattern assigned to males and females influences all our roles in life the traditional veiw of gender roles grew out of a male oriented culture Theories of Gender Role Development Social Learning Theory one way that our children learn about gender is through their interactions with others watching and learning reinforcement children learn from the messages they receive from others Cognitive Developmental Theory emphasizes the role of children's thought process in learning about gender Gender Schema- in order to understand the world, one simplifies by using categories Categories- guide how they act and what they pay attention to in their enviroment Theories of Power: Economic Factors Recource theory- those who control valued resources needed bt other family members hold power over them Emotional Factors Social Exchange theory- those individuals with the greates emotional need for love have the least power Education and Knowledge Theory of Primary interses and competence- the person who is the most interested an involved is most qualified to make a decision and will be more likely to do so Test 2 review Communication types Double bind Nonverbal Understanding communication Gottman’s Work Metacommunication Goals of listening Listening behaviors Mixed messages Communication and intimacy Conflict resolution Mace Lerner’s Anger Management Styles Sources of conflict % of newlyweds fight once a month (know the %) Conflict and living together Conflict management Styles of conflict (e.g., collaborative … ) Sexuality College students’ faith and sexual behavior (know the %) Frequency of intercourse Sex education Sex issues Organic sexual dysfunction (know the %) Janus Study Sexual permissiveness HS students and STD’s (know the numbers) Hellmich Masters, sexual dysfunction (know %’s) Gender and labor Gender roles Androgyny Double standard Gender theories Gender and culture Research about money Conflict and money Financial pitfalls Budgets Budget and housing (mortgage) Unsuccessful budget Middle income = (know the range) Self-disclosure in relationships