FEBRUARY 3

February 3, 2009 Rowe reading Hargrave reading Forgiveness Two models: phenomenological, family systems phenomenological Dialogal and qualitative approach (not empirical model) Concerned with the process more than the results Not a traditional way Wanted to stress the difference in their approach Each person (interviewer) is going to have different definitions of forgiveness because they will be biased from their own experiences Doing interviews and not having empirical data brings out the biases This is qualitative data research and provides different perspectives This research is useful because it is more personal and gives more description and to see where the subjects are coming from as opposed to just having a number Doesn?t impose on the structure arbitrarily More time consuming; answers might be more dishonest therefore skewing the outcome/results Don?t know anything about the participants (no sex, age, race, socioeconomic status, etc) or how they were recruited Not sure how believable the data is because the recruitment process is unknown Luther: Opening the door for one to see they have done wrong is result from his idea of what forgiveness is Blum & Leary ( pg 235 (find about revenge) P 237( question at bottom Wording brings about questions Need for forgiveness arises ( (fitness) ?tearing of the fabric? ? sense that the world has been turned upside down as a result, one is preoccupied with the injury (can?t stop thinking about it) belief that the injury is targeted towards oneself leads to anger and blame; desire for revenge and an apology if relationship is valued, revenge becomes interspersed with reconciliation seesaw between blaming the betrayer and then oneself revenge mode: blame them reconciliation mode: blame yourself desire to move on; people get stuck in ambivalence sometimes there is moral values to motivate to move on guilt with other person can motivate to move on desire to feel peaceful over feeling haunted can motivate ----(hypothesis) how does genetics relate to forgiveness? hanging on is a defense against grief unexpected resolution willingness to forgive will lead to unexpected resolutions focus on needs knowledge grows from forgiveness