Interpersonal Attraction and Close Relationships

Psychology 530 with Sharp at University of Wisconsin - Madison

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the overall pool of potential friends and lovers, influenced by institutional structures and an individual's stage in life course

- routine activity

- proximity

- familiarity

routine activity

doing things together

proximity

being in same area

familiarity

getting to know someone

norm of homogeneity

friends, lovers are similar on key aspects

homogamous traits change over time

- religion used to be important

- race still important but not as specific

- social class still strong predictor, college grads marry college grads

physical attractiveness

matching hypothesis - people prefer to date someone more attractive than themselves but they will date someone on their own level

female attractive facial features

mix of neonate and mature features

- large eyes, small nose, chin, prominent cheek bones, high eyebrows, large pupils big smile

male attractive facial features

large eyes, small nose, prominent cheekbones, large chin, big smile

why neonate and mature?

- neonate thought to be more attractive cause they elicit feelings of warmth and nurturance in perceivers

- mature cause they cause power, stress and dominance

facial symmetry

- people find symmetrical faces and bodies the most attractive

- since parasites and other health conditions can cause dissymmetry, evolutionary mechanisms evolved to favor symmetry

attraction over time in relationships

- as relationship progresses, perceived attractiveness of partner rises, then falls 5-15 years and then starts rising again

- researchers argue that passionate love explains the initial spike, habituation to partner explains dip, familiar and cognitive dissonance

exchange processes

we desire people who provide a lot of rewards for a little cost and dislike people who provide little rewards for a lot of costs

comparison level

the level of outcomes expected based on the average of a person's experience in past relevant relationships

- "am i getting what i got in the past?"

comparison level for alternatives

lowest level of outcomes a person will accept in light of other alternatives

- "can i do better?"

attitudinal similarity

- republicans like republicans, vegans like vegans

- cognitive consistency

shared activities

people who do things together grow to love one another together

reciprocal liking

liking someone because they like us

companionate love

feelings of intimacy and affection minus passion or physiological arousal

- close friendships or intimate with no heat

passionate love

intense longing for another person

liking

- intimacy only

- emotional closeness

empty love

- commitment only

- arranged marriages

infatuation

- passion only

- love at 1st sight

- arousal of physical attraction and sexual drive

romantic love

- passion and intimacy

- younger people in college who don't want commitment

companionate love

- intimacy and commitment

- old couple that don't have sex anymore

fatuous love

- passion and commitment

- Hollywood romances

consummate love

passion, intimacy and commitment

- strive for, mismatch causes dissatisfaction

non-love

- absence of love altogether

- casual interactions between acquaintances

eros

passionate, physical love

ludus

love as a game

storge

slow-growing love,

evolve out of affection and friendship

pragma

pragmatic, practical

mania

emotional rollercoaster

agape

selfless, altruistic

- put partner first

love story

a script about what love should be like

- falling in love involves finding someone with whom you can create a relationship that fits love story

- satisfaction depends on sharing similar love stories

attachment styles of love

attachment styles develop in infancy will greatly influence our love styles in adulthood

- attachment styles are cognitive schemes that can be changed, albeit often with difficulty

secure

relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me

- attentive mother

happy and trusting in relationships

avoidant

somewhat uncomfortable being close to others

- mother rejects physical attention

fear of intimacy, emotional highs and lows and jealousy

anxious/ambivalent

others are reluctant to get as close as i would like

- slow or inconsistent mother to child's cries

obsession, desire for union, high sexual attraction and extreme jealousy

romantic love

we need justifications and rationalizations to explain being married to one person

prosaic-realistic love

marriage is a life-long commitment; rational and realistic approach

intrasexual competition

two boys fight over one girl

preferential mate choice

people desire to mate with people who have specific

3 premises of evolutionary theory

1. mating behavior is specific

2. mating strategies are context dependent

3. because men and women have faced different mating problems over time, they have evolved different strategies

social exchange theory

argue that people want to be in relationships in which they receive lots of rewards for little costs

equity theory

argues that couples are the happiest when the costs and rewards that one person gets is roughly equal to the costs and rewards contributed by the other

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