The language we choose to describe our relationships has little effect on how we feel about those relationships.
Healthy sexuality depends on feeling good about yourself. Talking about fears, worries, anxieties, and concerns with our partners can help them understand, and it may even be the first step to coming to terms with these issues ourselves. Self-esteem also has a powerful effect on how we communicate with others. A person with positive self-esteem will often expect to be accepted by their partners, whereas someone with negative self-esteem will often expect to be rejected by their partners. Before anyone else can accept us, we need to accept ourselves.
Self-disclosure and asking for what you need:
Opening up and talking with your partner and sharing feelings, or self-disclosure, helps deepen intimacy and sexual satisfaction. It is critical to maintaining healthy and satisfying sexual relationships. Self-disclosure lets your partner know what is wrong and how you feel about it, and it enables you to ask for specific change. When you open up and share, your partner will be more likely to reciprocate by opening up and sharing as well. Communication is key.
Trusting your partner:
One of the most important ingredients in any happy and satisfying sexual relationship is trust. Trusting your partner means that you have confidence in them and feel secure in the relationship. Our family also contributes to our ability to trust an intimate partner. Having more trusting relationships early in life lays the foundation for happier and healthier sexual relationships later in life. The importance of self-disclosure, and one key factor that is related to the ability to self-disclose and sexual relationships is trust. If we trust her partner and feel confident and secure in our relationship, self-disclosure will be much easier. Building trust takes time, and it is typically a process of uncertainty reduction. Our prior relationships influence our ability to trust, but the level of trust in any new sexual relationship depends in a large part on various aspects of our current partner. Minimum women who report being more trusting of the partners also tend to be more optimistic about the relationship and think more positive thoughts about the partners negative behaviors. However, nontrusting partners would have many doubts and concerns, and might think their partner doesn't love them anymore.
Although verbal communication about your likes and needs his former effective than nonverbal communication, nonverbal communication can help increase sexual satisfaction. Men are more likely to initiate touch and casual relationships, and women more likely to do so in the serious relationship. Couples use both verbal and nonverbal communication to initiate the sexual activity. Nonverbal communication can help partners express sexual desires and also reinforce verbal messages. Using nonverbal communication to share your sexual needs during sexual activity can be easier and less disruptive than verbal communication. Either way, couples to communicate their needs and desires to their sexual partner have higher levels of sexual satisfaction than those who do not communicate their needs.